This Small Mindset Change Will Make Building New Habits Feel Like Second Nature

Your life today is the result of your habits from the past:

  • How in shape you are
  • How educated you are
  • How happy you are
  • How much money you have
  • How good your relationships are

I could keep going, but I’m sure you get the point.

So, if you want to lead a successful life, it’s crucial that you learn how to master your habits.

Here’s how.

The Habit Loop

According to researchers at MIT and included in Charles Duhigg’s book,


The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business


, all habits follow the same neurological loop:


  1. A cue:

    the trigger. Example: You get an email notification.

  2. A routine :

    the habit that follows the cue. Example: You open the email.

  3. A reward:

    the benefit you gain from doing the habit. Example: You get to know what the email is about.

If you perceive the reward as positive, you’ll want to repeat the loop again the next time the cue shows up. If you repeat it enough times, it’ll become a routine.

The habit loop is a very useful framework because it makes it easy to dismantle your habits and manipulate its different parts.

Let’s go through each of the steps and look at the most powerful strategies for mastering them.

1. The Cue

Most people have very vague intentions for the habits they want to create.

Unfortunately, as you may have noticed, telling yourself,

I’ll work out three times this week

rarely works. And that’s because you haven’t created a proper cue for the behavior.

To build a solid habit, you need to know exactly when and where it will be taking place. A stupid simple, yet incredibly powerful way of doing that is to use

“if—then” statements.

You do that by completing the following sentence:


If [situational cue], then I will [planned response to the cue].

For example:

If I’m leaving work on a Monday, Wednesday, or Friday, then I will go to the gym.

Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this strategy. More than 200 studies have shown that people who use ‘if—then’ planning are about

300% more likely than others to reach their goals.

2. The Routine

When we create new habits, we tend to want big results, fast. And because of that, we try to create big changes.

The problem, of course, is that it rarely works. Instead, what typically happens is that we overwhelm ourselves and quit shortly after we’ve started.

To avoid that trap, you need to make a simple shift in your mindset. Instead of obsessing over the results, start obsessing over showing up.

Forget about the long-term results, and instead make the habit

so ridiculously easy you can’t say no.

Go for a five-minute walk. Meditate for two minutes. Read one page in a book. Build motivation and momentum by setting yourself up for, and celebrating, small wins.

Then, when the behavior is well established, you can incrementally increase your efforts.

3. The Reward

To reinforce your habit, you need to reward yourself for doing it.

That can feel a bit awkward, especially in the beginning when the behavior is easy to do. But the thing is, you aren’t celebrating your results. You’re celebrating your ability to show up.


Stanford psychologist and behavior expert BJ Fogg

suggests you think of it this way:

The fact that you’re learning to change your behavior is a big deal. Think how rare a skill it is. Think how long behavior change has eluded you. And now you are succeeding.

Don’t celebrate your five-minute walk. Celebrate that you’ve taken another successful step to improve your life. Allow yourself to do a quick fist-pump, short victory dance, or exclaim a proud “Yay, me!” each time you complete your habit. Your brain will associate your habit with your reward. And that, in turn, will make it likelier you’ll keep doing it in the future.

The Habit Loop isn’t just helpful for creating good habits. It’s also very useful for getting rid of unwanted behaviors. All you have to do is analyze and manipulate the different parts of the already existing loop.

First, think about how you can cut out unhelpful cues. For example, if you eat unhealthy snacks when you have them around the house, throw them out. Try to remove as many triggers as possible from your environment. In psychology, this is referred to as

“stimulus control.”

Then, use “if—then” plans to replace unwanted routines. For example,

if I feel like eating a snack, then I will have a fruit.

The key here is to experiment with different routines to find substitutes that work for you.

And finally, come up with creative ways to remove the rewards associated with your bad habit, while rewarding yourself for following through on the good ones.


This article was originally published on

Selfication.com.

It has been republished here with permission.

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About Richard Moy

Richard Moy
Richard Moy is a Content Marketing Writer at Stack Overflow. He has spent the majority of his career in talent management, including a stint as a full-cycle recruiter and hiring manager. In addition to the career advice he contributes to The Muse, he also writes test prep and higher education marketing content for The Economist. Say hi on Twitter @rich_moy.

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